Recognizing that you want or need a mentor is one thing, but finding a good mentor can be overwhelming and stressful if you don’t know how to go about it. Are you someone trying to find a good mentor but don’t know where to start? Unsure of the benefits of having a good mentor? This comprehensive guide will give you all the information you need to know about finding a mentor and how one can enhance your life!
Start with your manager
Depending on your relationship with your manager, you may or may not want to start with them. If you have a good standing with your manager and they are open to helping you out, ask your manager who they would recommend. As your manager is higher than you in terms of their work title, they are likely to know various individuals who would be open to mentoring you. Going about it this way is the simplest, as you interact with your manager on a regular basis and don’t have to do an extensive personal search.
Work with Human Resources
If going to your manager first is not an option, your next option is to work with your company’s human resources department (if your company has one – most typically do). Contact HR and tell them about your mentor -seeking journey and ask for help. Through HR, you can find different mentoring options that your company might offer.
Search within your company
You’ve exhausted your resources in contacting your manager and consulting with human resources, what next? Searching within the company you work for is another great option. Though it can require more energy and work from you, it can be beneficial to reach out to an individual personally rather than through someone else, i.e. a manager or HR worker. Victor Lipman of Forbes suggests, “ If there’s someone else in your company – a manager or executive either in your part of the operation or in another area – whom you highly respect and feel you could learn from, just go ahead and ask them yourself if they’ll mentor you.” Before you do this, Victor notes to inform your direct manager that you’ll be doing this, for transparency!
Be someone who is enjoyable to Mentor
While it may seem like so much of a mentorship relies on the mentor, it relies significantly on you as well! As a mentee, you want to be someone who is enjoyable to mentor, meaning someone who is receptive to what your mentor tells you, actively executing ways to better yourself, and working hard to ensure their work and energy does not go to waste. Kathy Caprino of Forbes poses these important questions to ask yourself, “ Are you somebody you yourself would like to mentor? Are you open, flexible, resilient, respectful? Are you eager to learn, and committed to modifying how you’re interacting in the world so you can have even more success, reward, and happiness?” Answering these questions can give you a greater perspective on what you can do to ensure a healthy mentor/mentee relationship takes place.
Put yourself in Mentor’s shoes
People say that empathy is the ability to walk in someone else’s shoes or see life from their perspective. Within your mentor relationship, try to put yourself in their shoes to help you understand their position, viewpoints, and perspective. In other words, be someone that is a joy to be mentored!
When it comes to finding a mentor, there are several different factors you want to consider. Evaluate the benefits of having a mentor, look for specific qualities in your prospective mentor, and take the appropriate steps within your work field to find the mentor best for you and your personality.
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