Ladies, I’m with you and guilty of some of these things. We’re awesome, but let’s be honest and admit how annoying we can be. I try to avoid doing these things and have noticed I generally get along better with guys. If these things annoy me, I can only imagine how much they bother guys.
Gossip
Very few people enjoy being around someone who gossips a lot. Men do it too, but it seems like girls have more of a knack for it. The sad thing is, it’s mostly negative talk towards other women. We should stick together. Whenever I meet someone, I try to stay open minded, be respectful of their values, and listen to their point of view on life. If you form an opinion about someone before you really get to know them, I have one question for you…Why can’t we be friends? Admit it, you just sang that in your head. It’s okay, we all do it.
Be Dramatic
We are notorious for being dramatic. There’s always that group of girls at school or the office who are known for blowing things out of proportion. Like, can you believe that Becky didn’t come out with us last night? Let’s just be adults and realize that everyone has a different background and cares more about certain things than others. We are all going through struggles. Guys and fellow ladies, give our dramatic friends some slack here. Maybe they just need a good vent session after a long day at work or a fight with someone they love.
Beg for Compliments
Let’s start here…everyone is beautiful in their own special way. You might not think that you are attractive on the outside, but I promise someone loves you just the way you are. On that note, can we stop putting ourselves down in the hopes that someone will step in and correct us by giving us a compliment? We shouldn’t have to rely on the approval of others to make us feel confident or good about ourselves. This is a bigger struggle for some girls than others, and obviously guys have this issue as well. Some people need more words of affirmation than others, but try not to ask for compliments.
Act Dumb
Who decided that “ditzy blondes” are the most attractive girls? If you’re with a guy who likes it when you pretend to be less intelligent than you are, you should get out fast. That is not an attribute that should be a selling point for guys, and they shouldn’t need you to dumb yourself down just for them to feel good about themselves. They don’t deserve your awesomeness. Now, I’m not saying all guys prefer dumb or “fake dumb” girls. There are plenty of great guys out there who are just annoyed when clever girls pretend to be less smart. Your intelligence should make you more attractive to the right guy, so embrace it. Don’t hide it.
Say “I’m fine”
Alright, I’m definitely guilty of this one. Sometimes, you are just too emotional or distracted to come out and talk about an issue right away. We shouldn’t be afraid to bring up issues or struggles we are having. If someone is asking you that question, it means they care about you and want to know how they can help. However, when a guy or a friend texts you “Are you okay?” when they know you aren’t, I totally understand the “I’m fine” response. If you’re clearly not fine, the last thing that should happen is a confusing conversation over texts about the issue. That “Are you alright?” question should happen in person, or at the very least, over the phone.
Girls, don’t worry too much if you do these things. Trust me, guys have plenty of annoying habits as well. Most people are trying to improve something about themselves all of the time. Many of these things stem from insecurities about yourself. Talking badly about others, looking for approval, and acting differently to be accepted all have to do with your self confidence. No one can just suddenly become more confident (but wouldn’t that be nice?). All you can do is try to be a nice, honest person who isn’t afraid of showing your true self to the world.