We’ve all encountered at least one person in our life that was toxic for us, whether it was a significant other, a friend, family member, co-worker, or stranger.
And now we have Britney’s Spears’ ‘Toxic’ running through our heads….
When someone is toxic, they will most likely share the same traits as other toxic people. If you encounter one of these people, make sure to distance yourself from them, so you can live a peaceful and happy life.
Before you get rid of that person, you must know what to look for. Here are the top 5 signs someone is a toxic person.
You feel emotionally exhausted after being with them
Have you ever spent a day with someone, and you come home and feel sad, angry, or just drained? This might be a big sign that someone is toxic. Whether they blame you or others for the negatives in their life or they tell you that you are wrong and they are right, you need to see the warning signs.
You feel more stressed than you did before. If they are someone in your life, they should make you feel good when you get home, not drained.
They disregard your boundaries
It could be that you don’t like a certain food or have a fear that they basically force you to do. They could stay at your house for a long period of time after you just hung out with them all day and just want to rest in your pajamas. They don’t get the hint, or don’t care and do what they want to. It doesn’t matter if you’ve asked them to stop, they keep doing what you asked them not to.
They may also expect you to drop everything at that moment regardless of the time of day and what you have going on in your life. Toxic people don’t know their own boundaries and can’t express themselves. They resort to pulling on you in aggressive ways and don’t know when to stop.
They see themselves as the victim all the time
This is a tactic they use to get sympathy and attention. They blame everything and everyone for everything that is going wrong in their life instead of pointing to themselves. They can’t do something because it’s someone else’s fault.
You don’t need to feel bad for them. They just want to get something out of it or use you to get what they want.
They take from you and keep doing it
A toxic person might take a lot from you, whether it’s clothes, items you own, constantly having you pay because they forget their wallet, or even your time or attention. They won’t even think of returning to you in a timely manner or at all for that matter. Sometimes you must physically call them and tell them you are coming over and taking back your item, if it’s physical. If it’s mental, tell them to give you space and maybe ignore them for a bit.
They send a message that you owe them something. You feel like you’re the only contributing. These are warning signs.
They undermine your self-esteem
Toxic people will boast about their success and themselves and constantly tear you down. You could have a habit that they don’t like and will tell you that you are a bad person because of it. They might make a big deal out of something about you that really isn’t a big deal.
Everything you say or do is met with an argument. They don’t listen to you. Nothing you do is right.
There are a lot more signs, but these are the top 5 to look out for. If you have someone in your life that shows any of these behaviors, make sure to get out of that situation, if you can, as soon as possible. You will feel better physically and emotionally and can breathe a sigh of relief.